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[coffeebuddha]

That moment where your female boss, who you've grown to admire, respect, and consider a friend, tells you that she doesn't hate gay people, but hates when they 'act too gay', and that she doesn't believe a woman should ever hold a political office because she'll either be 'too emotional/irrational' or 'become so hardened that she won't even be a woman anymore.'

How gay is 'too gay'? Would I be considered okay since people never guess I'm bisexual unless I tell them? Do I cross that line if I wear a rainbow shirt or cut my hair down to a buzz or hold another girl's hand? And the 'too emotional/irrational' argument aside--because there have been countless studies and real life examples proving that isn't true--how does someone who identifies as female ever become 'not a woman'? Is there some formula I missed out on? Is there a list of 'womanly' traits and if you don't tick off so many boxes, then you don't count? When I drive my truck or enjoy 'guy' movies, does my score go down?

I'm not angry. I'm just incredibly saddened.